Did you know that only 8% of New Year resolutions are kept by the end of the year? That resonates with me, the person who vowed to exercise more (nothing much), cut down my internet shopping (not at all), drink more water and eat at least the 5 a day (5 what a day I … Continue reading CELEBRATE 2015 AND MORE OF IT FOR THE NEW YEAR, here’s what I did ….
Well, it is that time of year again. You’ve saved up the holiday leave, and the money, you’ve planned, searched and booked, probably last January just after the post-Christmas blues set in and finally it’s here: the annual summer holiday. This year will be different, we won’t squabble, cry, tear our hair out over every … Continue reading Make the most of your precious holiday leave… here’s how
I sat up in my seat when this is how Heather Mills (former wife of Paul McCartney) described the famous Beatle recently on Irish TV. It sounded like a teenager looking at an old man and wondering what all the fuss is about. Is that what Paul McCartney is now, ‘just’ an 'old man'? I … Continue reading I wish I were ‘just some guy who wrote a few cool songs in the 1960s’
A brilliant and amazingly effective skill of assertive people, is the ability to get to yes. It is a powerful, collaborative and positive approach to life. Assertive people are superb at getting to yes, they are influential and organised, they get things done, the right way for them and for others. The outcomes are a … Continue reading Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….
In my previous blog post, if you answered the 18 questions honestly, you will broadly know whether you tend towards assertiveness. This is the first step in self-awareness. The challenge now is to 'take a look' at yourself: observe and analyse the choices you make every day. Reflect by playing back in your mind how … Continue reading How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….
What’s on hold for you? I’ve lots on hold, stuff I want to do, things I want to learn, places I really want to visit, but when? Why do I keep putting things off, procrastination and personality aside, I can make a start and here’s how. First, for some context, here are three things I … Continue reading So much on hold, use the ‘swiss cheese’ method to get going, now…
That rarely happens, sometimes when I give feedback I don’t get thanked, I get a blank stare or a mutter of defence. Then I am very sorry I took the risk of saying anything at all and keep quiet the next time. Feedback comes with negative connotations, such as rejection, loss of status, fear of … Continue reading Give feedback and be thanked ……
Last week (15th January) I was invited in to the old alma mater to give an interview for their health radio show (33:30): scary stuff as I had never been on radio before, but in the spirit of moving out of my comfort zone and trying out new things…. Anyway, the topic was on breaking and … Continue reading MAKE IT OR BREAK IT – with habits for 2015