Behind every Just Right stands a Just Responsibility

I think we need to come back a few spaces and stop a while to think things through before we start shouting about and fighting for, our rights.  A right that is just, expresses what we want, need or feel but not at the expense of others i.e. not violating other people’s rights.  With just … Continue reading Behind every Just Right stands a Just Responsibility

Surrender your position… a new concept in conflict resolution

In conflict situations we have an innate approach to which we automatically revert; a habit, formed over years of experience and linked to our personality.  Like an old shoe, it’s our style, is well worn, comfortable and much loved. Old shoes are moulded to us and therefore difficult to discard for new shoes. New shoes … Continue reading Surrender your position… a new concept in conflict resolution

How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

In my previous blog post, if you answered the 18 questions honestly, you will broadly know whether you tend towards assertiveness.  This is the first step in self-awareness.  The challenge now is to 'take a look' at yourself: observe and analyse the choices you make every day. Reflect by playing back in your mind how … Continue reading How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

Assertiveness can be grown……

A lack of assertive ability and skill, hold many people back from living their lives the way they want to; it is often at the heart of disengaged and demotivated people at work. A key component of EQ (emotional intelligence), assertiveness has often come up in many of my coaching and training sessions hidden in a diverse … Continue reading Assertiveness can be grown……

Give feedback and be thanked ……

That rarely happens, sometimes when I give feedback I don’t get thanked, I get a blank stare or a mutter of defence. Then I am very sorry I took the risk of saying anything at all and keep quiet the next time. Feedback comes with negative connotations, such as rejection, loss of status, fear of … Continue reading Give feedback and be thanked ……

Grow your own goals for Spring…..and watch them blossom into something wonderful

There is this amazingly simple approach used in coaching called GROW and many people use it to help them make changes in their lives, changes they always wanted to make but find difficult or about which they are constantly procrastinating. Count me in here, I am very slow to make changes, especially when they are … Continue reading Grow your own goals for Spring…..and watch them blossom into something wonderful

How to influence others when you have no direct authority over them

While I am very sure much has been written to explore the ‘Six Principles of Influence and Persuasion’ (by Dr. Robert Cialdini) in practice: to criticise and debunk their simple or superficial nature, I have to admit that I rather like them for that very reason: their simplicity and because they appeal to my sense … Continue reading How to influence others when you have no direct authority over them

Shake my hand – that likability factor in influencing others

  I was listening to a very interesting and absorbing interview this morning on RTE Radio I with Martin McGuinness.  Now, before I go any further, I am not a member of any political party, nor do I want to be. I am a quiet voter who normally votes for individuals rather than parties: such is … Continue reading Shake my hand – that likability factor in influencing others