Emotional Intelligence is not for wusses

So many clients have questioned me when I suggested that emotional intelligence (EI) coaching and training will definitely impact positively on their professional competence and business results. They look at me questioning whether I really and truly realise the pressure they are under from stakeholders, customers, suppliers, agencies, and colleagues to over-deliver day after day … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence is not for wusses

MINDFULNESS MEETS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK

  As I left a meeting with one of my clients yesterday, an international investment company with global connections and headquartered in Luxembourg, I was struck by something she said.  We were discussing training requirements related to competencies, performance management and organisational change, then, out of the blue, this senior executive responsible for training across … Continue reading MINDFULNESS MEETS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK

I wish I were ‘just some guy who wrote a few cool songs in the 1960s’

I sat up in my seat when this is how Heather Mills (former wife of Paul McCartney) described the famous Beatle recently on Irish TV. It sounded like a teenager looking at an old man and wondering what all the fuss is about.  Is that what Paul McCartney is now, ‘just’ an 'old man'? I … Continue reading I wish I were ‘just some guy who wrote a few cool songs in the 1960s’

Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….

A brilliant and amazingly effective skill of assertive people, is the ability to get to yes.  It is a powerful, collaborative and positive approach to life.  Assertive people are superb at getting to yes, they are influential and organised, they get things done, the right way for them and for others.  The outcomes are a … Continue reading Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….

How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

In my previous blog post, if you answered the 18 questions honestly, you will broadly know whether you tend towards assertiveness.  This is the first step in self-awareness.  The challenge now is to 'take a look' at yourself: observe and analyse the choices you make every day. Reflect by playing back in your mind how … Continue reading How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

Assertiveness can be grown……

A lack of assertive ability and skill, hold many people back from living their lives the way they want to; it is often at the heart of disengaged and demotivated people at work. A key component of EQ (emotional intelligence), assertiveness has often come up in many of my coaching and training sessions hidden in a diverse … Continue reading Assertiveness can be grown……

Positivity and Optimism: Are they overrated? Try a different perspective

Some years ago I did the StrengthsFinder test and found out that one of my strengths is Positivity.  I always knew that I had this strength, it comes with an ebullient personality: finding the positive in situations and with people, appreciating the good and focusing on strengths while overlooking any weaknesses, seeking to like people and support … Continue reading Positivity and Optimism: Are they overrated? Try a different perspective

How to influence others when you have no direct authority over them

While I am very sure much has been written to explore the ‘Six Principles of Influence and Persuasion’ (by Dr. Robert Cialdini) in practice: to criticise and debunk their simple or superficial nature, I have to admit that I rather like them for that very reason: their simplicity and because they appeal to my sense … Continue reading How to influence others when you have no direct authority over them