Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….

A brilliant and amazingly effective skill of assertive people, is the ability to get to yes.  It is a powerful, collaborative and positive approach to life.  Assertive people are superb at getting to yes, they are influential and organised, they get things done, the right way for them and for others.  The outcomes are a … Continue reading Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….

How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

In my previous blog post, if you answered the 18 questions honestly, you will broadly know whether you tend towards assertiveness.  This is the first step in self-awareness.  The challenge now is to 'take a look' at yourself: observe and analyse the choices you make every day. Reflect by playing back in your mind how … Continue reading How to grow your assertiveness, first step observation….

Assertiveness can be grown……

A lack of assertive ability and skill, hold many people back from living their lives the way they want to; it is often at the heart of disengaged and demotivated people at work. A key component of EQ (emotional intelligence), assertiveness has often come up in many of my coaching and training sessions hidden in a diverse … Continue reading Assertiveness can be grown……

Give feedback and be thanked ……

That rarely happens, sometimes when I give feedback I don’t get thanked, I get a blank stare or a mutter of defence. Then I am very sorry I took the risk of saying anything at all and keep quiet the next time. Feedback comes with negative connotations, such as rejection, loss of status, fear of … Continue reading Give feedback and be thanked ……

How to resist multi-tasking and get more of the right things done

This is the practical follow-up to a blog post I published last week on the myth of multi-tasking: how to recognise when you are multi-tasking and what the potential negative consequences are for you if you multi-task regularly. While awareness is key to successfully resisting the temptation to multi-task, there are also a number of simple and practical … Continue reading How to resist multi-tasking and get more of the right things done

Take back personal power: how to resist being influenced

  I published a blog-post recently on how to use Cialdini’s ‘Six Principles of Influence and Persuasion’ to influence more effectively at work and now it is time to tackle that rather elusive area of resisting influence, so that I can get on with the job (or whatever I am doing that’s important to me) … Continue reading Take back personal power: how to resist being influenced

The fast, unreserved Apology, so powerful in resolving conflict…

Many years ago I attended a one-day course on ‘conflict resolution’ delivered by Brian McGeogh.  Since then, I have used the powerful principles upon which the training was based both in my personal and professional life, over and over again.  And I have shared them with people attending my own workshops for their benefit and … Continue reading The fast, unreserved Apology, so powerful in resolving conflict…

3 powerful Leadership traits… what we can learn from the most humble of people……..

Just last week I had the honour of delivering a short personal development workshop to a group of amazing people: 6 wonderful nurses who had just completed their Higher Diploma in Palliative Care with UCC/ Marymount.  It was a privilege to be in the company of people who give of themselves, day after day, so … Continue reading 3 powerful Leadership traits… what we can learn from the most humble of people……..