A brilliant and amazingly effective skill of assertive people, is the ability to get to yes. It is a powerful, collaborative and positive approach to life. Assertive people are superb at getting to yes, they are influential and organised, they get things done, the right way for them and for others. The outcomes are a … Continue reading Get to ‘yes’ and ditch the compromise, here’s how….
A lack of assertive ability and skill, hold many people back from living their lives the way they want to; it is often at the heart of disengaged and demotivated people at work. A key component of EQ (emotional intelligence), assertiveness has often come up in many of my coaching and training sessions hidden in a diverse … Continue reading Assertiveness can be grown……
What’s on hold for you? I’ve lots on hold, stuff I want to do, things I want to learn, places I really want to visit, but when? Why do I keep putting things off, procrastination and personality aside, I can make a start and here’s how. First, for some context, here are three things I … Continue reading So much on hold, use the ‘swiss cheese’ method to get going, now…
I was never a fan of goal-setting. I studiously avoided writing out goals for my annual performance plan and when it came to that time of year for review, usually the dreaded first few days of January, I just said to myself, well I know what I want to do and that’s enough. Sometimes it … Continue reading Why SMARTER goals always win the day
There is this amazingly simple approach used in coaching called GROW and many people use it to help them make changes in their lives, changes they always wanted to make but find difficult or about which they are constantly procrastinating. Count me in here, I am very slow to make changes, especially when they are … Continue reading Grow your own goals for Spring…..and watch them blossom into something wonderful
This is the practical follow-up to a blog post I published last week on the myth of multi-tasking: how to recognise when you are multi-tasking and what the potential negative consequences are for you if you multi-task regularly. While awareness is key to successfully resisting the temptation to multi-task, there are also a number of simple and practical … Continue reading How to resist multi-tasking and get more of the right things done
We often resort to multi-tasking thinking we can get more done that way. We think we can do many things at the same time to save time and energy. This is, unfortunately, a myth. The brain is not built for multi-tasking, it is at its best when ‘in the flow’, focused fully and completely on one … Continue reading Get in the flow: the myth of multi-tasking
I published a blog-post recently on how to use Cialdini’s ‘Six Principles of Influence and Persuasion’ to influence more effectively at work and now it is time to tackle that rather elusive area of resisting influence, so that I can get on with the job (or whatever I am doing that’s important to me) … Continue reading Take back personal power: how to resist being influenced